12.04.2007

Rejected by a Three-Year-Old

The adult, rational me knows that when Cutie pushes me away she is confused or angry or processing or tired or all of these.
The vulnerable, emotional me doubts whether I am a good mother. Are we moving forward? Am I meeting her needs and loving her well?

My mind is full of these thoughts and many prayers.

Lord, help me to be and to say what these girls need. Give me wisdom and patience.

6 comments:

Naomi said...

you are a great mommy, we are all praying for you!

Lisa Leonard said...

There is grace. Love you sis!

Sarah Markley said...

I agree with Lisa - grace....

pennymalley said...

This is only the beginning as you raise girls... I have a 7- going on 20-year-old... hang in there!

Karyn said...

Yes, grace. Lisa said to me years ago, "I think as mom's we all need to give ourselves an extra helping of grace. Believe me, I think of that often. We all expect ourselves to be perfect mothers, but they just need good and loving mothers. You are that!

Brianna Heldt said...

it's so extra hard with an adopted child, because there is always the extra-nagging thought of, are they attaching properly, am i doing the right things to promote healthy bonding/attachment, am i meeting their needs, how will this play out as they grow. at least, that's been my experience. but God is so faithful. i realize more and more that as a mom (and especially as an adoptive mom) i so don't have (nearly!) all the answers, but God knows, and gives me what i need for today. you guys are doing such an amazing job!!!